My daughter’s new class teacher, a MRS. Got infuriated by my five year old girl’s refusal to obey a particular instruction of hers, took a cane, flogged her in class and said to her “You are a very stupid girl…very very stupid girl”
After a while, the MRS. Teacher called my girl and said to her “if you tell your mum that I called you ‘stupid girl’ there won’t be food/lunch break for you”
Emotional torture, blackmail and threat… Did you experience that? Were you or are you still a victim?
I guess you are wondering if my daughter told me? Wondering how I handled it? Trust me the most important thing for me was to have my daughter’s ESTEEM intact and secured. No one has the right to take that from her, mainly not her teacher.
Many of us, weren’t that privileged to have a parent stand up to protect our esteem, in some cases your parent or guardian were even the ones abusing you emotionally.
Actually emotional abuse can happen to anyone either a child or an adult, often not leaving any physical signs but having effects on your confidence and self esteem. Often comes in sneakily and subtly, sometimes onlookers may not even realize its there.
Are you wondering too?
Ok, here is it?
- Do you often feel or someone tells you, you are not good enough?
- Are you called names or they put you down?
- Are you often afraid, threatened or intimidated?
- Do you feel insecure?
You probably are a victim already, however DO NOT STAY there.
Emotional abuse is not something you can manage, endure or cope with; ultimately it will leave you battered and damaged. Making you depressed, unproductive and even suicidal while your abuser(s) goes on with life.
You don’t want that, am sure?
So what then, GET UP, shake off the dust, turn your back, lift up your head and move on. Self-talk is a powerful tool to overcome emotional abuse. Talk to yourself, counter the words said to you with your own words. Don’t be catch tangled in the ambush of emotional abuse.
Ask yourself; Who is talking? Who said it? Is that person your creator? Even if it is your parent, is he or she your God?
You need to validate yourself. The world will not do it for you. I know you are wounded, try to get up from the mess made of you, find your voice, find your purpose and find your life. You only remain a victim as long as you want to remain there. They might had tried to bury you with their words and action…however you are a seed, when pushed down into the ground picks up and sprung forth as a plant.
In your pain, actually lies your strength. Think and picture YOU as you would want your life to be, dream it, envision it and IGNORE any voice telling you otherwise.
You are the best! You are destined for greatness! You are a gift to humanity!
I love YOU…