Archive | September 2015



That exactly is who ‘we’ are, our lives, our experiences, our pains, our stories are not just for us but just like Christ who endured the pain and death on the cross to give life to several…so also our pains and crucifixion is a seed to germinate and bear more fruits of liberated beings…to seed to multiply it’s self as it grows into abundance…a seed who died to live again.

I love & honor you

FEAR- deal with it!

My World is Crumbling…

A client came in to my office and before I could say ‘Good morning..’ she burst into tears and shaking violently screamed ” I am tired of this life, nothing is working, ..(sobs) I have served God all my life… I have prayed and prayed but God seems not to be interested’… (more sobs) I don’t even know what next… I am so afraid to continue living, my whole world seems to be crumbling one after the other”.

It took her almost the next twenty minutes before she was calm enough to even explain what her challenges are.

Do you seems to understand this woman? You identify with her?

You also might had felt like this woman… when it seems the whole world is crumbling down on you. You had cried and cried to no avail as It seems no one hears your cries…nothing good seems to be coming out of life, even God seems to have gone on a sabbatical leave.

Friends and families are nowhere to be found… the ones that stayed, you can see the helplessness in their eyes as they stare at you.

Fear! Anxiety! Worries! Helplessness! Broken-hearts! Loneliness! Sadness! Brokenness! name it….

Wonder if you had ever felt any of these before? Wonder if your world had ever crumbled? How does it feel?…

Let’s talk about fear first.

Someone once defined FEAR as





The simple truth is that; everyone is afraid of something. Everyone goes through a challenging season at one time or the other, what determines how long such challenges last is FEAR.

Fear is your greatest enemy to success or a fulfilling life. Fear is a powerful force. In one way or the other it had been known to keep people from accomplishing what they really want out of life.

Fear of rejection, Fear of failure, Fear of success, Fear of the Unknown, Fear of Dying, Fear of losing, Fear of poverty, fear of….

Everything you desire of life is actually on the other side of your greatest fear. If you do not go for it, to conquer it, it will keep looking like nothing is working for you or God isn’t on your side. No!!

Succeeding in life requires more than wishing or praying, it needs you to move, to act and to confront your fears. Fears antidote is Courage and Action. Coach Keith Johnson in the book, Confidence Makeover states that

Overcoming life’s obstacles and making it to the top in life will require confident ACTIONs. Confidence will move you to action and action will destroy all your fears”.

Image result for pictures of fearYou need to sit down and ask yourself,

What is holding me back from a fulfilling life? What are some of my greatest fears? When and how do they manifest? What counter-action could I take to confront each of these fears?

Always remember you are not your past and courage is not the absence of fear…

I honor you


What is coming out of you has nothing to do with what is outside of you. It’s what is inside!

images 2 How are you today?

Wait a minute and take your time to answer this question? Really, HOW ARE YOU TODAY?

Excellent? On top? Great? Marvellous? Above all challenges?

or are you …Tired? Confused? Battered? Fearful? Unmotivated? feeling Caged?

However you feel, don’t let it stop you today.

We often miss out of opportunities because of these feelings, concerns, voices in our heads…

There is no delusion nor any need to pretend to your self. You see the truth in everything, beyond the appearances and limitations. Beyond what others says and what others do. Therefore, mastering the skills of being you must be a non-negotiable act, because embedded in YOU is an incredible being that needs to be freed and heard.

The real PRISON is our mind.  Someone asked me recently, ‘what exactly is freedom?’ you see, freedom is actually self -realization and actualization. Be your own enemy and bully yourself into self-actualization.

Wondering HOW?…

First, note that you are not your present condition. The only limitation or disability is when you refuse to “adapt” or “adjust”. If you refuse to adapt then the world would turn you to an object of pity. One of the important things you can master is to LOVE YOURSELF. You cannot afford to feel sorry for yourself, no matter how bad the situation. Pity is a killer! You cannot pity yourself nor allow others to pity you…its going to pull you down into a disempowering state.

Secondly, Do not accept nor believe in predictions that do not empower you. one of the unique strength of humanity is WORD. Many do not know nor can imagine its power. What you hear or say matters a great deal, focus and accept only words, predictions or statements that puts you in a good state…it doesn’t matter who says it, if it takes your MIND into a gloomy state, reject it! Remember, you can not determine what people; doctors, parents, teachers, mentors, friends etc would say to you, YOU can decide to accept or reject it. Do not cage yourself with others imposed prison…fear of what they think of you….images 1

Lastly, the real prison to gain freedom from is your MIND. Salvation is in you. When you learn to master your emotions then you are free. The mind is a powerful servant and a terrible master, so you need to continuously learn to rise above it. It is a ‘parachute’ a tool to safety and death. Yes!

You can use the ‘mind’ for development and destruction. Choose!

Yes Choose…

What do you want to be remembered for?

What do you want to achieve?

How are you programming your mind for it?

Success is no accident. You have just one life to achieve it, break free from the PRISON of your mind and GO for it.

I believe in YOU…in your magnificent and marvellous self. You are loveable and wonderful.


You may share this with others and comment or send in your questions on the comment page below.

I honor you

Timi Oyebode

Happy New Month

Whoa! its being a while. or do I say welcome back?

Apologies to all and thanks for your pings and emails to find out why the long silence from The Counsellor. I was observing my mandatory annual leave from work and taking the much needed rest. Thank you for your understanding and sorry for any inconvenience,

However, I am back refreshed and graced for the work ahead. As September comes in today full of promising opportunities, blessing, liberation and break through, you can be rest assured that yours will not pass you by.

God ,Himself is in the business of healing and liberating this season. He is here for you and I. Don’t give up on God, he wont give up on you.

I remember this song by Panam Percy Paul,

“Don’t give up…. its not over

when you give up…then its over

hold on to the Lord and trouble not your heart

even when it fails, its not over…”

The fact that you failed before or you have been called a failure repeatedly, doesn’t make it nor means its over. Failure is not the end, it is the beginning of another trial, it is a feed back that the last one wasn’t successful and a pointer to another way to go about it.

Its a new month, a new season and a new opportunity…Go for it.

I honor you